People I know always wonder how the “others” have sex. By that, I mean homosexuals wonder what’s appealing to the heterosexuals and vice versa. Although there’s more mystery around lesbian sexual behaviour. Is porn true? Do they use dildos? Can they actually play about with their private parts with false nails an inch long? Do they know the in’s and out’s of our insides better than we do? There was only one thing for it. I met up with my friend Sirin, fashionable, daring, and a lesbian.
We did of course discuss what attracts her to women, and I to men but that’s not what you need to know. You could work that out for yourselves. I’m here to tell you tips “from the other side”. In the discussion I was shocked to discover there is barely any use of dildos. Yes, porn has lied to us yet again! And if there was a dildo, just like the real thing, there is more to it than just ramming it in aimlessly.
So far I thought straights must be winning. I mean if nothing is inserted what do you do? Well it turns out their sex is our foreplay, and it puts it to shame.
So far I thought straights must be winning. I mean if nothing is inserted what do you do? Well it turns out their sex is our foreplay, and it puts it to shame.
There were many techniques I heard of and there was a couple that stood out. One I call “the prolonged orgasm”. I’d already tried this with my partner, with it being his idea. This made me very pleased to realise he was on the same wavelength as Sirin – this meant he was a natural at amazing foreplay too! Men or ladies, if you’re enjoying “alone time”, this is what you need to know:
When a woman orgasms if you’ve done the job properly it can be so intense that after throbbing a bit it starts to hurt. This is when you automatically move his hand away (if your using your tongue fella’s, the good, throbbing intensity can be the same but as there’s less pressure than with a finger the pain won’t be so intense). Instead of moving away just stay there. The pain can be very painful but it’s an enjoyable pain, but a pain non the less, so when she orgasms, (you don’t need my help with that – unless she’s a mute it will be clear) release the pressure slightly of your finger. If it’s the first time doing this go a little slower too. Ladies, don’t push him away. Pull the cushions, pull his hair, bite his arm, but don’t push him away. It’ll be intense, amazing, and like nothing you’ve had before. The strangest mix of pleasurable pain you’ll be begging for more. The score stands thus: 1 – 1.
When a woman orgasms if you’ve done the job properly it can be so intense that after throbbing a bit it starts to hurt. This is when you automatically move his hand away (if your using your tongue fella’s, the good, throbbing intensity can be the same but as there’s less pressure than with a finger the pain won’t be so intense). Instead of moving away just stay there. The pain can be very painful but it’s an enjoyable pain, but a pain non the less, so when she orgasms, (you don’t need my help with that – unless she’s a mute it will be clear) release the pressure slightly of your finger. If it’s the first time doing this go a little slower too. Ladies, don’t push him away. Pull the cushions, pull his hair, bite his arm, but don’t push him away. It’ll be intense, amazing, and like nothing you’ve had before. The strangest mix of pleasurable pain you’ll be begging for more. The score stands thus: 1 – 1.
Another technique is called “Come Here” or “The Right Way To Finger A Girl”. Sounds grotesque, “fingering”. Images of two fingers pushing aimlessly stabbing your insides while you have to lay there not thinking about his hangnail taking a piece of you with him. Needless to say I never had a nice experience with it and therefore my beau has not been allowed to even try. I brought this up with Sirin. Turns out you men are just doing it wrong. If you ego’s are feeling battered that a lesbian is better at foreplay than you are, do your science research! Just google experiment to find g spot and there seems to be a thousand ways to do so. But life is about learning and fret not because now you know. According to Sirin you need arm power. Stick your forefinger and middle finger in and up, so the palm of the hand is facing you. Than do a “come here” motion, of moving the two fingers in unison towards you. Mix in twirling them around together, then twirling them with a slight come here motion. Once you start to see her enjoying herself, feel she’s wetter you continue doing “come here” motion moving you arm forward and getting further up, then down again. Now comes the best part, literally. This is particularly good for women who squirt. You’ll be able to tell when she’s about to come but tell her to let you know. As she does, pull out completely for a second then push back in. This will make her throb, and moan and feel pleasure like there’s no tomorrow. The reason it’s particularly good for those that squirt, is because they’ll release a bit when you pull your hand out then before they can relax you’ve gone back in and teasing it out of them again. Of course when you put your fingers back in don’t just sit there – keep doing the motions. And before you think this is myth, or you’ve tried it and it doesn’t work – it does! You just need to feel about until you get the reaction but those moves will do the trick once you’re in place. Believe me. My boyfriend and I figured for me to know for sure who’s got the better sex/foreplay we’d have to put it to the test. The score stands thus: 2-1 to the gay’s.
Of course oral popped up. As did just touching each other, kissing, dirty talk and it all boiled down to one conclusion. Lesbians take more time to learn their partner’s bodies than men. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there are lesbians out there that just want their fill and go, and I know there are men that will take the time to discover every inch of a woman’s skin. But the general amount of men I know fixate on boobs, bum, crotch. Even when they get to the crotch they think it’s just a clit and a tunnel. Guys, lesbians are winning in the foreplay-sex war. If you’re with a woman, for the night, for a year or for life, take a leaf out of their book – learn everything about your lady. Yes, there are those sexual area’s but some get goosebumps when you stroke their back. maybe she like you giving her nips on her thigh? Try kissing her neck. Tonight why don’t you focus on her body and touch and kiss and caress her everywhere except her usual spots. And not for ten minutes! And eventually you can learn to do the same to her sensitive areas.
Don’t get me wrong. Not everyone finds it easy but there are people out there who are naturals. And men, if this starts to hurt your ego don’t think of it as you’re doing bad: you’re not. These are just techniques to try, which might just spice things up. Even if the flame doesn’t need to be relit, there’s no harm in trying something new. If anything this won’t only improve your foreplay, but you’re entire sex life, you’re love life and happiness. Hey, maybe next time the straights could win?
